Grooms speeches vary according to personal taste and whether the wedding speeches order is based upon a traditional or modern sequence. The wedding speeches order has the greatest influence upon the content, or topics, included in the speech, whereas the groom’s personal taste and natural inclinations will guide the style of the wedding speech. Grooms for whom wit and satire come easily may want to incorporate a healthy dose of tasteful humor into their speeches. Grooms who are noted for their ability to spin a good yarn may want to capitalize on that talent by incorporating a bit of story-telling into their wedding speeches. Touching, heart-felt speeches are suited to grooms who possess a sentimental disposition. When it comes time to speak, you will want to feel comfortable with your grooms speech. By choosing a style that reflects your personality and innate strengths, you will be more at ease behind the microphone.
In this post, we’ll examine a grooms speech example that is appropriate for a traditional wedding. To recap, the traditional order of wedding speeches includes the following speeches in the listed sequence:
- Father of the Bride
- Best Man
In this arrangement, the men speak on behalf of the women and, by custom, address very specific topics in their speeches. Thus, any traditional grooms speech example will include the following:
* Acknowledge the bride’s father’s toast and offer thanks for the reception (assuming the bride’s parents bore the wedding expense)
* Acknowledge the guests and, on behalf of self and wife, offer thanks for their presence, their gifts, and their good wishes
* Acknowledge the bride and offer thanks for becoming his wife
* Acknowledge best man and groomsmen and offer thanks for their help with the wedding
* Acknowledge the maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids and offer thanks for the help they provided to his wife
* Propose a toast to the well-being of the bridesmaids
If gifts were not given to the bride’s and groom’s attendants at the rehearsal dinner, then the gift-giving would also be incorporated into the groom’s speech. The groom may also wish to address his parents in the grooms speech.
Here’s an example of how each of the above topics might be addressed by a traditional groom with a sensitive nature:
Hello, everyone. I would like to begin, tonight, with a few remarks to my father-in-law. John, thank you for your kind words and good wishes. Lori and I are immensely grateful to you and Jane for the warmth that you have shown us and for your unfaltering support of our union. A marriage can endure when two people share a deep commitment to each other. When further surrounded by a loving and nurturing extended family, the marriage will not only endure, it will flourish. The manner in which you and Jane have welcomed me into your family and received Lori and I – not as children, but as adults in our own regard – enables us to start our married life on the best possible footing. We are deeply appreciative for the encouragement you have given us and for this wonderful reception where we begin our lives together in the company of family and friends who are so dear to us. Thank you!
To all of our guests, we also extend our heart-felt thanks. It means a lot to Lori and I to have you with us on this important day. Each of you holds a special place in our hearts and in our lives and it is an honor to be able to celebrate our wedding with you. We are grateful for the effort you made to be here, today, and for your generosity and good wishes. But most of all, we are grateful for you and for your gift of friendship.
To my bride, Lori, it seems as though words fail me. You have always been – and will be forever – beautiful in my eyes. And today, you exude a radiance that takes my breath away. You cast a glow upon everything and everyone around you, rendering them purer and more lovely than ever. It is a brilliance that emanates not only from your outward beauty, but from that sparkle within – from all that is good and kind in your spirit and from your joyful love of life. That you have chosen me – out of all the men in the universe – to be your husband is a source of wonderment and delight. I look forward to the life ahead of us in which we work, each day, to bring out the best in each other. We have the potential to live full and gratifying lives and to be a positive influence on those around us. When the time comes for us to leave this world, I am sure that it will be a better world for our having lived and loved and joined our unique talents.
And that brings me to my parents, for without you, I would not be the man standing here today. Mom, you are the best mother that I could have had. Your gentle guidance instilled in me a sense of right and wrong. Thanks to you, I have a moral compass that will point me in the right direction as I move forward in my life. I want you to know that no matter how far I travel, I carry with me your teachings and your love. You will never be far from my thoughts and you will always be in my heart. Dad, I’ve heard many young men say that it is challenging to follow behind their fathers. Not so for me. In your journey through life, you have left footprints that are both large and deep – and that’s not just because you have big feet. You are the most considerate, fair, and honorable man that I have ever known. You have an understanding of actions and consequences, which you couple with thoughtfulness. This allows you to act with confidence and the knowledge that, with each giant step you take, you cause little harm along the way. You have been a model of courage and consideration and have charted your path in a way that is very clear to anyone who chooses to look. And I choose to look. For if I can emulate your decency as I chart my own path, then I will be a man who is worthy of the good name that you have handed to me.
To Robert, my best man and even better brother, I want to thank you not only for standing beside me today, but for standing beside me for the last 22 years. We have been friends, playmates, co-conspirators, and occasionally, rival siblings – particularly on the golf course. And none of that will change. We have a bond that has been forged by laughter and by tears, by shared victories and minor defeats. And so it is fitting that you stand beside me and share in my happiness on this day. I thank you Robert, and also my friends and groomsmen David and Edward, for your loyal friendship and help leading up to this moment. I don’t know how I would have managed to be here without you. Lori and I look forward to your ongoing companionship in the years ahead.
To Julie, Lori’s maid of honor and lovely sister, I wish to express my delight in becoming your brother-in-law. I promise you that I will always respect your relationship with Lori and will do my best to never come between you and your sister – even when the two of you are enjoying your own brand of sibling rivalry. Julie, and bridesmaids Ashley and Jennifer, I know how hard you worked to help Lori prepare for this wedding. I am grateful for all that you have done and for how much each of you means to Lori. I am amazed that, in spite of all of your efforts today, you still managed to look so splendid. From hair to make-up to dresses and shoes, you each look gorgeous – almost as gorgeous as Lori. Yet more exquisite than anything is the look of happiness on your faces. It does my heart good to know that your happiness is for Lori and me. And for that, I invite everyone to rise and join me in a toast. Julie, Ashley, and Jennifer. I wish you all the best that life can hold; a life filled with good health and good fortune. I drink to your fondest wishes; may all your dreams come true!
This is just one example of a groom’s speech that is appropriate for a traditional order of wedding speeches. What is most important, from a content standpoint, is that all of the appropriate individuals are acknowledged in the speech. How you choose to address them is open to greater variation. You, your honorees, and your guests will feel most satisfied when your speech rings true to who you are as a person. So, as you sit down to pen your speech, invite your vocabulary and your personality to sit down beside you. In the end, you’ll be happy that you allowed your inner self to do the talking.
For more information on authentic speaking, read Pamma Durnin’s post, “Just be Yourself!”
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